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Before you date him, read what She said.

🚩 When Every Ex Was “Crazy”… It’s Time to Pause

If he says every ex was the problem — too emotional, too clingy, too “crazy” — and he was always the innocent victim? That’s not just a pattern… it’s a Red Flag 🚩.

While everyone has a past, constantly shifting blame and bashing exes can be a classic tactic used by narcissists and manipulators to avoid accountability. Real growth comes with reflection — not rehearsed sob stories.

Before you believe the tale, ask yourself: Is he telling the truth, or just playing the victim to avoid being the villain?

Trust your gut. Look for patterns. And if you’re unsure… search the name. 👀

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"We’ve all been there…"

He might say he’s “single,” but we’ll tell you if he’s got a secret family, a mysterious ex, or a thing for disappearing acts. With our reviews, you’ll know exactly who you're dealing with before your first date (or any second dates).

Think Your Man is a Dream? Let's Make Sure He's Not a Nightmare.

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A man is placing a ring on a woman's finger during a proposal, with stage lights in the background. The text above reads: 'Engagement Swindler: Several Women Expose Married Man Who Went Viral For Tyler The Creator Concert Proposal!'
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Ever met someone who seemed perfect, only to discover a web of deceit and manipulation?
Take Byron Hopkins, for example — the man who went viral on Tiktok after proposing to his girlfriend at a Tyler, The Creator concert. Hours later, the truth unraveled: he was already married, had a disturbing history of emotional, physical, and psychological abuse, and had used lavish public displays to lure multiple women into toxic, dangerous relationships. He’s been coined as “The Engagement Swindler” and his victims have come forward to share their truth and warn other women of his predatory tactics.

At TheRealHim.com, we’re here to help expose patterns like this — because the truth is, most abusers don’t just hurt one person. They leave behind a trail. And when women connect the dots, we can stop the cycle before someone else gets hurt.

🚩Is He A Red Flag? Check Your Experience Before Posting a Review. 🚩

Your story holds power — recognizing red flags isn’t just reflection, it’s protection for the next woman. Speak your truth, and help her stay one step ahead.

  • Identifies signs of manipulation and control, which are major red flags.

  • Highlights dishonesty, which undermines trust and transparency in any relationship.

  • Identifies emotional manipulation, a common narcissistic trait.

  • Points out inconsistencies that could indicate deceit or dishonesty.

  • A narcissistic trait that shows refusal to take accountability.

  • A red flag for controlling behavior and potential emotional abuse.

  • Reveals if he uses defensiveness, gaslighting, or other manipulative tactics.

  • Indicates narcissism or dishonesty about personal history.

  • Directly addresses any physical or emotional threats to your well-being.

  • Red flag for controlling and possessive behavior.

  • Refers to gaslighting, a common manipulation tactic used by narcissists.

  • Focuses on dishonesty, trustworthiness, and deception.

  • Indicates disrespect for personal boundaries and potential manipulation.

  • A potential sign of narcissism or emotional abuse.

  • May indicate deception or that he is hiding his true self.

Share Your Story. Save Someone’s Sanity.

Ever wished someone had warned you before you said yes to that first date? Or before you ignored that gut feeling?

At TheRealHim.com, we’ve seen what happens when charm masks chaos. Just like the recent viral story of Byron Hopkins — who went from public proposal to public disgrace — some men live double lives, hiding a pattern of abuse behind big gestures and curated personas. These patterns don’t start with you, and they won’t end with you… unless we start talking.

This is your anonymous, women-only space to share what it was really like dating him — the good, the bad, and the "you need to know this." When you speak up, you're not just sharing tea — you're shining a light for the next woman, helping her spot red flags before it’s too late.

💬 Anonymous.
🤝 Supportive.
🚩 Potentially life-changing.

So go ahead — share your truth. Help a sister out. Because no one deserves to walk into a relationship blind.

→ Submit your experience now

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